100 Questions to Ask Yourself for Self Growth and Clarity

We are all trying to be better versions of ourselves. To help, here are 100 questions to ask yourself for self growth to gain insight on where you are and what you can do to make things better.

If you enjoy these questions, check out these couples journal prompts.

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Questions to ask yourself for self growth

Self growth is all about improving ourselves for a greater sense of overall wellbeing. Improvements can be physical, mental, intellectual, emotional, social and spiritual. And each aspect feeds the other. For instance, exercising more has wonderful benefits for our mental and emotional wellbeing.

Expanding our skills, mindset and resilience are just part of the self growth journey. So, here are some questions to ask yourself:


  1. What is your current fitness level?
  2. Are you happy with this?
  3. What are your favorite physical activities to do that you don’t consider exercise? (swimming, snorkeling, biking, hiking, dancing, yoga, tai chi, qi gong, spin class, etc)
  4. How can you cram more of your favorite physical activities into your week?
  5. Can you invite your loved ones to join you when doing these activities?
  1. Have you noticed changes to your physical, mental and emotional health when you do these activities?
  2. Can you describe these changes?
  3. Do you feel pain and tightness in any part of your body?
  4. Does your nervous system feel regulated or dysregulated?
  5. What can you do to ease pain and regulate your nervous system?


  1. Is your diet nutritious and healthy?
  2. What foods can you add that’ll make your diet better?
  3. What foods should you remove from your diet to make it better?
  4. Is your body getting the right amounts of vitamins, minerals, fatty acids, and fiber?
  5. Does your doctor recommend any supplements you should take?
  1. What small changes can you make to your meals that will cause your health to improve?
  2. Do you drink enough water?
  3. How are your results for important blood tests?
  4. Is your doctor happy with your results?
  5. Is there anything you can do to improve them?

At home

  1. Are you getting enough sleep?
  2. What can you do to improve the quantity and quality of your sleep?
  3. Are you exposing your body to enough sunlight?
  4. Do you feel safe and comfortable at home?
  5. What can you do (or get) to feel more comfortable?


  1. Do you have a good support system?
  2. Who are the people closest to you that make you feel happy, joyful and positive?
  3. Have you told them how much you appreciate them? (I’ve got a bunch of thank you messages if you want to send them something sweet)
  4. How often do you communicate and get together with them?
  5. Can you nurture these beautiful connections even more?
  1. Is there anyone in your life that makes you feel hurt, upset, or judged? (energy vampires)
  2. What do you do to protect your mental health and inner peace when you’re around them?
  3. What else can you do? (create stronger boundaries, go no contact, grey rock)
  4. Can you forgive them and release your resentment?
  5. What will it take for you to come to that place?

Deep questions to ask for personal growth


  1. What is your definition of happiness?
  2. Are you happy in this moment?
  3. What can you do to increase happy moments in your day?
  4. Do you have gratitude for the people and things around you?
  5. Have you tried gratitude exercises before and did you like them?
  1. What activities and hobbies rejuvenate you?
  2. What topics, events, and situations make you excited and passionate?
  3. What did you love doing as a child?
  4. How does play look like now that you are older?
  5. Can you incorporate some of these answers into your every day life to increase the joy and happiness you feel?


  1. What is your definition of success?
  2. How do you celebrate small wins?
  3. How do you acknowledge and celebrate big milestones?
  4. Do you feel like you deserve your success?
  5. How much is enough (money, assets, accomplishments)?
  1. Have you ever experienced fear of failure paralysis?
  2. Do you have limiting beliefs and fears?
  3. Are these fears paralyzing you from achieving your dreams?
  4. Do you sabotage your own success?
  5. What is your biggest obstacle to achieving success?


  1. How do you handle stress and challenges?
  2. What are your triggers?
  3. Are you satisfied with your responses to challenges?
  4. What can you do differently to improve your stress response?
  5. Is there one thing you can do that you fear but you know doing it will help you?
  1. How do you validate your own feelings?
  2. How can you give yourself more grace, self compassion and empathy?
  3. Do you ask for help enough?
  4. Can you reframe your perspective to change limiting beliefs and fears?
  5. Can you break down something you’re afraid of doing into smaller tasks to make it easier to step out of your comfort zone?

Career and goals

  1. What is your dream career?
  2. Does this dream align with your morals, values and what you are doing now?
  3. What can you do to make sure they are aligned?
  4. What do you want your life to look like 5, 10, 25, 50 years from now?
  5. Which new skills and knowledge do you need to achieve that life?
  1. What techniques work for you to overcome procrastination?
  2. What does your mind and body need to stay focused and motivated?
  3. Do you delegate and outsource enough?
  4. Do you hold yourself accountable in a gentle way? (without blaming and shaming)
  5. What is your definition of work life balance and are you happy with your current balance?

Adventure and creativity

  1. What is on your bucket list?
  2. What do you need to achieve each item on the list?
  3. How do you create newness in your life and in relationships?
  4. When last did you do something wild and spontaneous?
  5. How did you feel after?
  1. How do you show your creative expression?
  2. What are your preferred creative hobbies? (dancing, singing, music, drawing, painting, baking, cooking, etc)
  3. How can you incorporate more creativity into your life?
  4. What is your definition of beauty?
  5. How would you notice more beauty all around you?


  1. What does spirituality mean to you?
  2. How do you practice your spirituality?
  3. What can you do more that will make you happy and bring inner peace?
  4. Are you open to exploring different spiritual philosophies and traditions?
  5. What are your hard no’s when it comes to spiritual growth?
  1. Have you tried meditation, mindfulness and prayer?
  2. Do they work for you?
  3. How do you deal with negative thoughts?
  4. Have you tried journaling?
  5. How do you see yourself building resilience to better handle life’s challenges?
  1. What does your self care routine look like?
  2. Can you improve this routine?
  3. Do you feel fulfilled and believe your life has purpose?
  4. What can you do to increase those feelings of purpose and fulfillment?
  5. What legacy do you want to leave behind?

I hope you find some positivity from these 100 questions to ask yourself for self growth. They are tough questions so give yourself your own kindness, empathy and grace. You deserve it.

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